一场人人都在说、没有人在听的对话——各自把不相干的词往桌上摆，还从别人的故事里借几块，给自己加分。 A conversation in which everyone is talking but nobody is listening.
A conversation in which everyone is talking but nobody is listening. 一场人人都在说、没有人在听的对话——各自把不相干的词往桌上摆，还从别人的故事里借几块，给自己加分。
词源etymology
anecdote（轶事）× synecdoche（提喻——以局部代整体的修辞格）。 这个合成词自己就在干活：每个人都拿自己的一段轶事，提喻了整场对话。
anecdote × synecdoche (the figure of speech in which a part stands for the whole). The blend does its own work: everyone offers an anecdote and lets it stand in for the whole conversation.
背景the story
《晦涩悲伤词典》原帖发布于 2013 年 2 月 13 日。定义本身（见下方引文）就是一段小品文： 把饭桌上的各说各话写成一局拼字游戏，谁都在摆自己的词，谁都不看别人的盘面。
酒桌、家庭群、时间线——这个词的用武之地十几年来只增不减。词典未收。
The original Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows post ran on 13 February 2013. The definition itself (quoted below) is a small essay: dinner-table crosstalk rendered as a game of Scrabble, everyone laying down their own tiles, nobody reading the board.
Dinner parties, family group chats, timelines — the word has only found more work since. No dictionary has taken it.
中文里的邻居neighbors in chinese
「各说各话」正中要害，但它是句批评；anecdoche 把同一件事做成了标本， 还多一层悲凉：每个人都只是在等自己开口。 「鸡同鸭讲」是听不懂；anecdoche 是听得懂，但不想听。
各说各话 (“each speaks their own speech”) hits the target, but it is a criticism; anecdoche mounts the same specimen for viewing, with one extra layer of melancholy: everyone is merely waiting for their turn to talk. 鸡同鸭讲 is failing to understand; anecdoche is understanding fine and not listening anyway.
A conversation in which everyone is talking but nobody is listening, simply overlaying disconnected words like a game of Scrabble, with each player borrowing bits of other anecdotes as a way to increase their own score, until we all run out of things to say.一场人人都在说、没人在听的对话——像拼字游戏一样，把不相干的词彼此叠放，每个玩家都从别人的轶事里借几块来给自己加分，直到所有人都无话可说。（中译） John Koenig John Koenig · The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows · 2013
The reunion dinner slid into anecdoche by the second bottle — six stories running in parallel, none of them landing. 自拟例句 our own example, not a quotation We weren't arguing, exactly; it was anecdoche — each of us just waiting for the other's mouth to stop moving. 自拟例句 our own example, not a quotation Group chats breed anecdoche; nobody replies, everybody posts. 自拟例句 our own example, not a quotation 不在词典中，而且发音都得现教（uh-NEK-duh-kee）。 限非正式与创意写作；正式场合，老实写 talking past each other。
Not in any dictionary — you’ll even have to teach the pronunciation (uh-NEK-duh-kee). Informal and creative writing only; in formal prose, just say “talking past each other.”