认识一个人竟要这么久的恼——寒暄一层层剥，几个月才见到真人；你想直接从中间读起。 Frustration with how long it takes to get to know someone.
Frustration with how long it takes to get to know someone. 认识一个人竟要这么久的恼——寒暄一层层剥，几个月才见到真人；你想直接从中间读起。
词源etymology
DOS 一贯的仿古配方，读音像一种炎症（-itis）：认识得太慢，恼得发炎。 把「社交进度条」写成了病名。
DOS’s usual mock-classical recipe, sounding like an inflammation (-itis): acquaintance so slow it flares up. The social progress bar, written as a diagnosis.
背景the story
《晦涩悲伤词典》2013 年词条。它戳的是成年友谊的一道工序问题： 寒暄、履历、安全话题，一层层通关，几个月后才轮到真正的那个人出场—— 而人生里能重跑几次这个进度条，谁也没数。
它和 sonder 是一枚硬币的两面：sonder 惊叹每个路人内部都有一整个宇宙， adronitis 恼火那个宇宙的签证怎么这么难办。
A 2013 Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows entry. It names a process problem in adult friendship: small talk, résumés, safe topics, level after level, months before the actual person makes an entrance — and nobody knows how many more runs of that progress bar a life has in it.
It is sonder’s flip side: sonder marvels that every passerby contains a universe; adronitis is annoyed at how hard that universe’s visa is to get.
中文里的邻居neighbors in chinese
「一回生，二回熟」是同一条流水线的乐观版——它相信工序，adronitis 烦工序。 「相见恨晚」看着近，其实站在终点：那是已经熟了之后回头惋惜； adronitis 卡在半路，惋惜的是眼下这一段还得慢慢走。 最贴的老话反而是「白头如新，倾盖如故」——前四个字，就是 adronitis 的病历。
一回生，二回熟 (“strangers the first time, familiar the second”) is the optimist’s version of the same assembly line — it trusts the process; adronitis resents it. 相见恨晚 (“we met too late”) looks close but stands at the finish: regret after intimacy is achieved. adronitis is stuck mid-route, regretting the road still to walk. The best old phrase is 白头如新，倾盖如故 — “white-haired yet strangers; one meeting, old friends” — whose first half is adronitis’s medical record.
Third coffee, still trading résumés — her adronitis flared; she wanted to skip to the chapter where they talk about their fathers. 自拟例句 our own example, not a quotation Adult friendship is adronitis with a calendar problem. 自拟例句 our own example, not a quotation 不在词典中。 非正式与创意写作；写成年交友、写职场破冰、写「什么时候才能不聊天气」， 它是那句抱怨的学名。
Not in any dictionary. Informal and creative writing; for adult friend-making, office ice-breaking, and “when do we get to stop discussing weather” — it is that complaint’s Latin name.